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March 30, 2010

Another thing many women do that I find truly astonishing is that, when having a conversation with a guy, they talk and talk and talk and talk and talk about their boyfriends or husbands. For most guys listening to this, it’s awful.

Ladies, if you are talking with a guy, and you want him to know you are not available, it is certainly ok to mention that you have a boyfriend or husband. That is a good thing to do, that’s smart. Talking about your man for the next 20 minutes after that, is lunacy.

If you do this, the guy you are talking to, if he is straight, will feel quite bothered! He will feel this way whether or not he wants to have sex with you, whether or not he wants to date you, he will still feel this way if he doesn’t think much of you. The result will be annoyance, or worse. He might nod and smile to be polite, but he will NOT be pleased with you.

If the guy  you are talking to is gay, he might like to hear about your man, he might not. If he has a boyfriend, maybe the two of you can compare notes. But, even if he is gay, he might not have an interest in all the details you want to share.

Whether gay or straight though, the guy you are talking to might feel jealous. The straight guy you are talking to might be aggravated because he is not your boyfriend. The gay guy may feel jealous because he can’t have your boyfriend.

Damn, I hope some women read this post and the one before it.

Why am I writing this post? Monday was an interesting day.. I got turned down by one woman, and was talking with another who went on and on about her boyfriend.

Just finding out that she had a boyfriend was bad enough!

The one with the boyfriend is a cute young Filipino woman, who has come up to me before in guitar class, wanting to talk. I’d been  thinking, “Oh good! She’s really paying attention to me, and I didn’t even initiate the conversation.”

Oh.. not so good. Today, within minutes after she started the conversation, she mentioned her boyfriend.. somewhere between 15 and 20 times. I felt kinda sick.  I didn’t feel jealous though. I have many flaws, but tend not to get jealous, just bothered.

The conversation did improve some  – the woman was interested in talking about other things,  eventually, but I still wasn’t pleased.

I went home, and later received the email from another woman, who I wrote about in an earlier blog.

Yay.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. March 30, 2010 3:28 AM

    Ooo damn. Did the girl know she was doing this and was doing it on purpose, or was it a genuine mistake? I get if someone is new in a relationship and is excited and goes on a little bit, but I don’t like it when it’s done on purpose. I find that quite rude.

    • tomschronicles permalink
      March 30, 2010 4:30 PM

      I don’t think she was trying to be rude.. just a bad habit some women have. They just don’t realize some things.

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