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be careful on facebook.

March 13, 2012

Here’s what happened to me yesterday.

Night before last, while on fb, in the top corner was an automatic friend suggestion. Friends of friends pop up, generated by facebook.

The picture was of a woman with her back to the camera. She was fully clothed.

The perspective of the photo was well-composed. She was down a hallway somewhat, and the photo had sort of a three-dimensional effect.

The lighting was great. The hallway was somewhat dark. In front of her was light, different shades of orange.. like how the sky appears after sunset.

This woman is on the friend list of a guy I know in person and hang out with sometimes, although I haven’t known him long, and don’t know him very well. But, even though I don’t know him well, I figured it wouldn’t do any harm to send the woman with the artistic picture an add request, because she is on his list. I was thinking she’d be a decent person, because he seems like one. Otherwise, I was guessing, she wouldn’t be on his friend list.

This past evening, I’m talking with another friend, who knows the friend whose list this woman appears on. The friend I was talking to said to me, “so what’s with you and this other guy and the picture of this woman with her tits hanging out?”

I’ve never posted anything remotely pornographic on my profile, and I couldn’t figure out what he was talking about. He fired up his laptop and showed me my profile.

There it was.. posted on my wall, a picture of a topless woman, her head not visible, her crotch barely covered with a string bikini bottom, and little letter “x’s” over her nipples.

She tagged the photo.. one of her breasts was tagged with my friend’s name, and the other with my name.

And, she wrote a rather nasty comment about me and my friend. Calling us “butt huggers.” I’ve never come across that term before. Terms with the words “ass” or “butt” in them, paired with a verb, applied to guys, are derogatory phrases referring to homosexuals. But homosexual men would not be turned on by topless women. This seemed both a mean.. and an odd comment.

As soon as I got home, I.. 1. removed the tag of my name from the photo. 2. unfriended her. 3. blocked her.


I take my facebook pages very seriously, trying very hard to only post edifying content. Nothing really foul. I post youtube videos of my favorite songs, and trailers of excellent movies, such as “Midnight in Paris,” and “August Rush.” I put up photos I’ve taken of wildlife and nature, quotes from great poets and thinkers.. links to important books.. you get the idea. I want people to be inspired by what I put on my wall and profile.

I shall be MUCH more careful on facebook from now on!

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Kathryn Smith-D'Arcangelo permalink
    May 14, 2012 1:11 AM

    Excellent advice. Thank you for the reminder.

    • tomschronicles permalink
      May 26, 2012 11:43 PM

      you’re welcome. thanks for commenting.

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